“Tell me how a person judges his or her self-esteem and I will tell you how that person operates at work, in love, in sex, in parenting, in every important aspect of existence – and how high he or she is likely to rise. The reputation you have with yourself – your self-esteem – is the single most important factor for a fulfilling life.”~Nathaniel Branden
Self-Esteem is how you feel about yourself, how you see yourself, your inner-most thoughts about yourself and your abilities… it’s those voices in your head.
A high self-esteem is when you believe in yourself, are confident, happy, and satisfied with your decisions and actions every day. Low self-esteem, on the other hand, is when you have a poor image of yourself, often believing ideas about yourself that other suggest to you. Not feeling good enough, in the looks department, in the work department, in the relationship department and generally not being able to see your own attributes and strengths.
You feel inadequate, are afraid to speak up, and often sacrifice what you want.
DO YOU HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM?
Do these statements sound familiar?
- I always feel “stupid”.
- I can’t understand what my friends and family see in me.
- I am uncomfortable when people want to do nice things for me.
- If only I were more attractive…or smarter
- I don’t expect them to promote me, and even if they did I would not be able to do a good job.
- I don’t really think about my dreams or goals; I wouldn’t be able to achieve them.
HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?
This poor self-image that you have of yourself is a learnt behavior. Sometimes it’s learnt as a child, or as a young adult, sometimes in a relationship with a close friend or lover. You accepted someone else’s views or words about yourself. You esteemed their opinion over your own and began to view yourself differently. As you went through life these feelings snowballed, you lost confidence and internalized an “I’m just not good enough” belief about yourself.
Perhaps you don’t feel good enough as a friend, partner or person. You become fearful of losing love or appreciation of the people in your life. Even though you have friends and people who enjoy and care for you, internally, quietly you believe that you don’t deserve them. This is low self-esteem manifesting itself into your relationships.
Similarly it raises its head on the professional front. Perhaps at work you don’t feel competent enough, smart enough, or that you can’t speak up or that you don’t do anything right, in the face of your superiors, contemporaries or subordinates.
I want you to know that, you were not born with these beliefs, you picked them up. You may or may not know where or how. With hypnosis this can be addressed and we can help you see yourself with pride, respect and confidence.
HOW WILL HYPNOSIS HELP IMPROVE SELF-ESTEEM?
Hypnosis assists to develop self-esteem because it addresses the subconscious mind where the self-depreciating belief system was created.
In our sessions together, the hypnotist will help guide you into an extremely relaxed yet focused state. We will suggest positive messages about yourself, to your subconscious mind. We can also help you change perspective and view your self-doubt positively, by changing your self-depreciating beliefs and behavior into confident and empowering beliefs.